Stop Being Perfect

Are you a perfectionist?

Have you ever encountered a feeling where you find yourself pissed off because something is not working as it should?

Do you think that success is deliberately keeping away from you despite your good talent?

Have you experienced situations similar to what Chris encountered in below tale? Read on:

Talented Chris

Chris was an accomplished graphic artist. His artistic eyes could see what was usually not seen by the most.

He had a taste. He was smart. He had a business sense too and in his job, his superiors were happy with his work and so were his clients.

Chris seemed to have all the talents and skills to create the graphic design studio he had always dreamt of.

He had created a Business Plan; prioritized what needed to get done and started executing the plan.

Something is not working out

It has been one year now since Chris got the idea of starting on his own but he is not even halfway.

The reason? Chris set extremely high standards because of his “perfectionist” nature.

Chris set the standard that his office should be located in the richest area of the city, the BEST interior designer in the country should work for decorating his office and his specifics has to be 100% respected while procuring the office equipments.

The interior designer got convinced to work on Chris’s project but she was booked for several months so Chris had to wait. Compromise was not in his nature.

He also wanted to hire best of the best artists for his studio.

He could inspire a couple of artists with his enthusiasm but since it took a lot of time to materialize, they lost interest and moved on.

More of less same things repeated and only a few things got done in the whole year. When Chris got the dates of interior decorator, he had so many inputs and strong opinions that the interior decorator got upset and conveyed that she does not want to work on Chris’s project.

Reflection Time

One year of time and nothing accomplished. It is a heavy evening along with sad Chris reflecting on what went wrong.

Despite being so talented, full of energy and enthusiastic, what is keeping him away from achieving his dream?

I have seen it happening with many people around me.

We set extremely high expectation for ourselves, our team and the work we are producing.

We dedicate humongous amount of time, money and energy to maintain our high standards. Our passion for perfection drives us to produce expected results.

When we tend to be perfect, we think that stopping and giving way are not good things.

Often this dedication towards perfection helps us produce results… as long as we don’t get swept away with such perfectionism.

But, what happens when we get swept away with such perfectionism?

We become extremely unhappy when we fail to meet the insane goals we set for ourselves.

We experience intense form of rejection and become hesitant to take on new challenges or continue projects that are ongoing.

The outcome? Stress. Ill health. Loss of trust in our own abilities and feeling of sorrow for our own self.

Stop Being Perfect.

Perfectionism is an illness. Perfectionists have a difficult time starting things and even more difficult time finishing them, every single time.

Perfectionism is the enemy of success.

Success comes to people who get things done. Getting things done means accepting imperfect things almost all the time that can get the work done.

Much better is to keep moving with less than perfect things while excelling ourselves by practicing.

Choose to be imperfect instead.

At first, it seems counter intuitive but it is not. We often don’t ship things because we are trying to figure out BEST possible way to ship.

Time spent in shipping, gathering feedback, and making your project better is time better spent than time spent in figuring out the best way to ship for the first time.

The key, as it turns out, is to figure out what amount of “imperfection” will work for your project and keep moving.

Sure, it’s not an easy skill but if we practice it over and over again, chances are pretty high that we will be able to get more things done despite choosing imperfection over perfection …

Getting things done plays the most important role in achieving success, being perfect does not.

Who do you want to be? Being successful or being perfect? Think for yourself.

7 Sunday Questions To Muse Upon

  1. Did I learn anything new last week? – No? Okay, better something this week then.
  2. What was my accomplishment of the week? – Do I feel more confident now?
  3. Was the last week stressful? – Yes? Was the stress worth taking?
  4. What made a positive difference in my thinking last week? – Was it a book? A blog post? A discussion with a colleague or mentor?  What was that?
  5. Did my health support me well in doing whatever I’m doing?
  6. Did I listen to my favorite music last week?
  7. How would I like to spend my coming week if this would be last week of my life?

7 Spectacular Beliefs Which Will Lead You Towards The Best Side Of Life

What’s the best side of life?

It’s something you’d like to be in. its something that you’d like to hold forever. Its something you’ve had always dreamt about.

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So, if you want to really be in the best side of your life then you need to act with that intent. Actions bring consequences and it totally depends upon your belief system.

It all depends upon your belief system. Remember, what you believe is what you get!

Here are a few beliefs which, when practiced will lead you to best side of your life.

  1. Failure is at the far side of success: It doesn’t matter if you haven’t got 95% exam score or you aren’t considered the best sportsperson in your team. What actually matters is persistence. Almost all the successful people have experienced intense failure in their lives… but they’ve persisted… persisted till the success come to them.
  2. Successful is one who embraces changes: Changes are constant and cannot be handled just by sitting aside. Even if you like or don’t you have to changes every single moment. Considering that you’re older than 3 years, today you can not see your version of the time when you were 3 years old… why? Because of change. Time has changed you…and you have accepted it knowing or unknowingly… so why not embrace it?
  3. Will is better than formal education degrees: Neither Bill Gates nor Dhirubhai Ambani got formal education degrees. They had one thing in common. Strong will. They were not bound to what others has created so for… they raised themselves larger than the education systems and created something which was never created before. Point here is to affirm that you’re not limited by degrees or anything. You still have enough potential to make it.
  4. I’ll never grow too old to learn a new thing: Is age anything more than a number? As you grow old, essential is to learn “to unlearn” whatever you have learned so far… you cannot afford to let the ‘child within you’ die.
  5. Thou extraordinary being is me: Each one of us is gifted with a special talent. Those who have identified that talent and leveraged it are recognized as extraordinary persons. You have to just find that unique talent within yourself. Start with this question, “What is one thing that you can do as no one else can?”
  6. The world rotates around me: Its all in your head. Your world is what’s in your head. When you change your thoughts, your world changes. When you start believing in yourself, the world also starts believing in you… this is the secret of law of attraction.
  7. There’s something I can do about it: Understand the great quote by Henry Ford, “When you think you can or you can’t, you’re right!” Law of attraction rocks and the secret is to believe that you’re going to do about it. Something which brings positive change and you’ll find your ways.

25 Ways to Motivate Your People Without Giving Financial Rewards!

Managers often feel that if they cannot give a financial reward they cannot motivate. Here are some non-financial items that can be given as recognizance.

  1. Smile
  2. Thank them
  3. Give them some time off
  4. Give them opportunity to work on Interesting project
  5. Direct them towards a course or a programme
  6. Offer a meal out
  7. Send them a Thank you card
  8. Send them an email recognizing their contribution
  9. Give them an award
  10. Gift them a badge/pin/tie
  11. Share a Book
  12. Give them some Chocolates
  13. Sponsor them Theater/film tickets
  14. Give them compliments publicly
  15. Give them Positive feedback on performance
  16. Invite them to coffee or lunch
  17. Give them solicitations for advice
  18. Give them recognition in a company publication
  19. Engage them in a job with more responsibilities
  20. Make a joint visit to a supplier or customer
  21. Offer them extended breaks
  22. Inspire them to work on a personal project
  23. Allow them to use of any equipment/machinery
  24. Offer them to make a presentation at a meeting
  25. Offer them to attend a conference/seminar