How to Excel at a Skill?

What do you need to excel at a skill?

Wondering what it could be?

Too many people believe that to excel at a skill, they need to make revolutionary changes in the way they think, feel and behave.

That’s not true.

To excel at a skill, you need to make a small change but on consistent basis.

To make a small change on a consistent basis, you need intentional focus and undivided attention to the task at hand.

BTW, Intentional Focus and Undivided Attention are the focus-keywords I’ve given to my team this year.

You need small yet consistent steps towards the apex of the skill-excellence.

Small is easy to start. Small is easy to measure. Small is easy to retrospect. Small is easy to correct.

Small is simple. Simple gets done, fast!

If you get better at your Photoshop skills 1% each day for next six weeks, you will see a 40% improvement in your Photoshop skills.

40% is a huge improvement, isn’t it?

It’s true for any other area of you life: Health; Cooking; Coding; Public Speaking … or any other area. You can excel at almost any skill you can think of.

Getting better by just 1% does not require you to make revolutionary changes in the way they think, feel and behave.

That’s less scary too.

So now you’re not scared, who’s stopping you from getting better at any skill you want in just about six weeks?

Any skill?

How to Stay Positive When Situations Don’t Let You Stay Positive

So you want to stay positive regardless of what happens to you?

“Keep your face always toward the sunshine – and shadows will fall behind you.” ~ Walt Whitman

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I’m a pretty positive person – I consider it one of the major contributors in making present version of myself.

I couldn’t have left my small town without a positive mindset, nor created SelfHelpZen, ScrumZen, PMCraft or decided to write a book. I couldn’t have lost 30 lbs in 2012, or quit my six figure corporate job to start something on my own.

Positive thinking has changed my life. Of course, positively.

But I did not have positive mindset few years back.

I was a pessimist person who was almost always living an empty and unhappy life because I was lost in million different reasonings and meanings of those reasonings.

One day, it all changed for good. I learned to be unreasonable and living in the present moment. The interesting observation about me being pessimist was this – being not so positive helped me because it created a hell-like need for me to stay positive.

So how did I changed myself?

Here’s 20 thought patterns that have helped me to stay positive and change my life for good.

  1. Become aware of your self-talk.
  2. Let go of negative thoughts.
  3. Perceive that positive thinking is the ONLY way to go.
  4. Scarcity mindset has never served anyone. Cultivate abundance mindset.
  5. Be grateful for what you already have.
  6. Know that if you have just one person in your life who loves you for who you are then you’re amongst wealthiest human beings in the world.
  7. Stop comparing yourself with others.
  8. Read world’s greatest success stories.
  9. See bad things as blessing in disguise.
  10. See failures as just a far side of success.
  11. Know that criticism is just a point of view. Accept it with nimbleness.
  12. But ignore the pessimists.
  13. Stay in company of possibility thinkers.
  14. If you can quit, quit as soon as you can.
  15. But If you can’t quit, don’t complain. Lead the change instead.
  16. Create your self-image of an extremely positive and successful person.
  17. Read “The Secret” Book and start believing in its principles.
  18. Be open to humor.
  19. Just smile.
  20. Take more chances.

Read the following Quotes and reflect on it:

On decision-making:

“I do not believe in taking the right decision, I take a decision and make it right.” ~ Muhammad Ali Jinnah

No one can help you die:

“Feast, and your halls are crowded
Fast, and the world goes by
Succeed and give, and it helps you live
But no man can help you die”
~ Ella Wheeler Wilcox

On surprising life:

“Life is full of surprises, so you may as well get used to it.” ~ Susan Meddaugh, Cinderella’s Rat

The most unbelievable architecture is the architecture of self,  that is changing constantly.

Every tiny act you engage in, consciously or subconsciously,  is a possibility to make something happen.  For the greater good of yourself and everyone around.

Choose to stay positive.

Do You Want to Win the Battle or the War?

Not all conflicts can be averted.

Not all conflicts are disastrous.

When you accept these two truths, your approach to your communication will change.

If you build a conflict-liberal organization, you focus more on the real problem that needs to get resolved, rather than engaging into the fixed ways of managing the conflicts.

Conflict-liberal approach means that you do not believe that the conflict itself is a problem. Instead, you consider that as a tool to get the problem resolved.

And usually, what you believe is what you get, isn’t it so?

But if you are not conflict-liberal, you might consider conflict itself as a problem and focus your energies into making sure that YOU are RIGHT.

Do you want to prove that you’re right or get the problem resolved? Do you want to win the battle or the war?

What You Believe Is What You Get!

There are three friends. Tony, Fred and Peter. It’s a Saturday evening. Tony called the other two and proposed: Let’s go to eat out.

Here are the responses Tony got:

Fred’s response
This is Saturday evening. We shouldn’t go to eat out. There will be a lot of public and restaurants will not serve their best. Even on the roads there will be heavy headlights because there are more vehicles out. It would be difficult to drive. Although I don’t like cooking at home in the weekends, let’s eat some noodles at home. Sh… I don’t like noodles too but I don’t think there’s any other way. Going for eating out? Definitely not.

Peter’s response
On weekends more people go to eat out, many restaurants offer best of their foods – competition matters. Sure, some restaurants would not be able to keep pace and offer inferior foods on weekends maybe due to heavy footprints but we can skip those restaurants for today. What we need to do is to find one restaurant which offers food we like. Let’s go to eat out. I think we will have great time.

So Tony and Peter decided to eat out. Even if they would get less than great quality food, they would be happy for their effort.

Believe there are issues and you’ll find yourself into the realm of issues which possibly you can never resolve. Believe there are possibilities and you’ll find actions to deal with anything that comes your way.

Whatever you believe, you will find evidences to confirm it.

Much of what we get is based on how we interpret things. Whether we play the victim or find possibilities in the battles.

Even negative beliefs have power. It is given by you. You want to prove only what you believe is warranted. If someone counters you then you will discover 100 reasons to prove what you believe is the right thing to do.

Pause for a moment and ask yourself: What exactly do you get out of belief systems that keep you away from things you want to do?

You feel right. You feel justified. You feel reasonable. That’s it?

Now answer this question: What are you losing out of such negative belief systems that keep you away from doing the things you want to do?

Possibilities. Agility. Happiness. Joy…

Read and reflect on what Buddha said:

“Your worst enemy cannot harm you as much as your own unguarded thoughts.”

And answer these questions: What do you actually want? Feeling of righteousness or joy of doing the things you otherwise want to?

The Best Self-Reflections from 108 Bloggers on Life

Regardless of their country, religion, gender, popularity or the age, they all had one thing in common – a thrust for learning.

They had an attitude to lead the life, regardless of what comes in the way.

More to that, they had the courage to share with the world whatever they have learned from life for just one cause. Life-lessons that they have learned can be multiplied for the greater good of mankind.

You guessed it right.  I’m referring to the project called Life Lessons Series in which I participated in July-2010. The project was hosted by my friend and a cool blogger  – Abubakar Jamil.

The project was led by him and Farnoosh Brook of Prolific Living and participated by 108 personal-development bloggers who shared what they have learned from life in the form of blog posts.

People read them. People loved them. People shared them. People talked about them. People felt them. People learned from them. Not only that, it affected quality of people’s choices; it affected many lives positively.

To extend that experience, Abubakar and Farnoosh have collected select gems from the life-lessons as a free e-Book called The Best Self-reflections from 108 Bloggers.

Have a look an example of life-lesson from a fellow blogger Raam Dev.

Time is a currency that appreciates in value and simultaneously decreases in quantity over the course of your life. There are only a few things really worth spending time and money on in life. Read more

If you have learned anything significant from life experiences, then I’m sure you’ll learn something significant by reading this 23 page masterpiece.

Silence 21

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  1. is the secret to sanity;
  2. can force anyone to slow down, think and act;
  3. is a hardest argument to deal with;
  4. keeps you out of gossiping;
  5. is an awesome way to connect to the world which is not known to you otherwise – your subconscious mind.
  6. is a noise easy to misinterpret.
  7. equals effective listening and more;
  8. is an integrity renovator;
  9. heals almost any pain;
  10. is full of potential wisdom;
  11. is as deep as infinity;
  12. is the rattling infinite of being;
  13. is the true friend that never betrays ~ Confucius;
  14. costs nothing;
  15. is the source of great strength ~ Lao Tzu;
  16. is right here in you, at every moment of your life;
  17. it allows entire universe to be;
  18. is one of the most powerful communication tool;
  19. makes you learn more about the people around you;
  20. most of us know how to use it but very few of us actually leverage it;
  21. is the island of peace; so start leveraging it, right now!