Thinking Vs. Doing

“When you have to shoot, shoot, don’t talk.” ~ Tuco, The Good, the Bad and the Ugly

Do what you should. Don’t talk about what you should be doing.

Results come to those who “act” while others are discovering the “right” ways to generate results.

You are what you do, not what you say you’ll do.

You might have knowledge about what’s right but it doesn’t matter.

Knowledge is not power; Knowledge is potential power. Knowledge becomes power only when you act upon it.

Results come to those who act.

Happiness is a result. Joy is a result. Life lived without regret is also a result. Yes. Result. Of something you acted upon.

If you are like most, you would not have clearly written statement of what’s most important  to you. Even if you have written it, it might not be in “specifics.”

Do it now. Here’s how:

  1. Write down what’s most important to you. It will be your #1 priority. It will guide you about what’s right and what’s wrong when you act.
  2. Get specific. (I want to have lots of money this year in my bank account is not specific. I want to have $50,000 in my CitiBank Checking Account by 30th September 2014 is.)
  3. Write down specific negative results you might get if you don’t act upon what’s most important to you.
  4. Write down the next action you need to take to advance yourself towards what’s most important to you.

Did you realize that you just now defined your future?

While you have power to “define” your future, you do have power to turn it into the reality. Realize that.

Cultivate the courage to create / shape / build or decorate your life around your #1 priority.

But what if I fail?

You will.

I bet.

Would you be needing more time to “analyze” your “unique” situation so you don’t fail?

No.

You will fail even though you have throughly analyzed your unique situation. Don’t worry much. Ensure that your basic needs are taken care of but that’s about it. Ask the critical question: Will my life end if this project fails?

No? Go ahead and DO the Work!

This has happened to me and I’m sure this would have happened to you as well: The self-talk that says that let me wait till I’m ready; let me wait till {blah blah blah} …

This doesn’t work. It is very much likely that you’ll wait for rest of your life to begin that project. Begin when you’re 50% ready and surprise yourself with the results!

The Four Enablers of Excellence

We all want to be a successful and excellence, as it turns out, is the vehicle to achieve the success.

So what it takes to achieve the success? What are the four pillars? What are the four enablers of excellence? Here they go:

  1. Essence: “I chose because that’s how I live my purpose. I’m responsible.” 
  2. Ownership: “I’ll make it happen no matter what.”
  3. Gratitude: “I’m thankful for all what I’ve got. Now let me give something back without expecting anything in return.”
  4. Courage: “If I don’t try, I can’t fail. But then what’s the point? Fear? Sure I do have my share of it. But I choose to feel the fear but do it anyway.”

We were born excellent. Fearless. We had all above qualities although we did not have the distinction that let’s us know that our core is made of pure excellence.

Then they taught us to be obedient. They gave us rules to live by…a sense of right and wrong from the perspective of the society took our lives over. Stories of punishments we will get if we don’t follow the rules became a part of our lives.

What they did not teach us is: it’s okay to break the rules; it’s okay to create your own rules…and be responsible for what you’ve created!

The result? Mediocre we. Yes, you. And me!

They were none other than our beloved family members, school teachers, elderly people whom we respected in the society and alike.

They wanted to see us happy but their understanding of happiness was against bringing the “excellence” out from us.

Their definition of happiness was fulfilled if we get a secured job which is predictable enough to raise children, go to Europe tour once or (twice at a maximum) in lifetime and live an apparently “settled” life.

Now, nothing is wrong with that definition if we are okay with mediocrity. Excellence takes something else.

Choice has always been ours; choice will always be ours: We can choose to dance on the head of fear and get the sh*t done or let fear dance on top of us.

A choice well made is a choice which we won’t regret on our deathbed. What choice you want to make?

Don’t Feel Sorry

Do you feel sorry about the things?

You should not. Here’s why: You feel sorry when you don’t take ownership of your act (or inaction) in the matter.

When you take ownership of your presence in the matter, you just don’t feel sorry, you do something about it.

Mentally weak people feel sorry about the things and expect that others should forgive them.

And, you are not born to be a mentally weak being, are you?

No individual is perfect in this world. We keep making mistakes every now and then. We make mistakes knowingly or unknowingly. Sometimes, we just can’t control our actions.

Whatever the cause, but the fact is, something has happened which should not have happened. Now what?

don't feel sorry

Assume ownership and do something about the matter: Make yourself involved at a deeper level in the matter or get out-of-the-way. Either act is fine depending upon its appropriation.

Choose not to live in the past.  Whatever lessons were to be learned are learned.  Decide to move on in your own, unique way.

For others, you may not be the same, dependable or trustworthy person. That’s okay! This is what your actions have created. Take more actions that have potential to create something that you wish for.

Maybe future will recreate the trust; maybe it will not. No one knows the future and while it might be painful at the personal level, leave it on time.

Move on from the event of past and focus your energies on other important things in your life. It may be spending time with your closed ones, getting better at a particular sport, growing your business or whatever they are.

Do not just feel sorry about the things, do something that is so valuable that the act that caused the sorrow becomes negligible in comparison.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not against the feeling of genuine sorry that you might feel about something that was done un-intentionally. The point I’m making is, when you really feel sorry about something, you do something about it.

You don’t just feel and keep feeling: The world is full of feelers, it needs more of doers. Actions count. Feeling should be a good trigger to take some actions that matter, the mere feeling is useless otherwise.

Go, rise to newer heights. When you genuinely feel sorry, assume the ownership and change yourself first. 2014 has just begun, this act has a potential to make it your best year yet!

Forgive Yourself Now

You have made a mistake and you’re not ready to forgive you. “How come I make such a mistake? Such a blunder?” You are thinking to yourself.

Sounds familiar?

We all make mistakes. For example, list down names of all your friends, relatives and other people you know. Include the great people, leaders and gurus whom you respect and admire a lot. Now pause for a moment and take a little detailed look at their lives. Even they have made mistakes.

The thing is, everyone does the BEST thing they can do in the very moment. Our actions are dependent on various parameters. Some of them we know, some of them we don’t. But regardless, they impact our actions.

That’s how it is.

The best thing you can do when you encounter a moment of heaviness where you are convinced that you have made mistake is to accept it as it is and just be comfortable with it.

The good thing about your mistake is this – it is your past, not your present. You have your present moment in your hand which you can shape as you wish.

Feeling guilty is a choice but certainly not a good one. In fact, it is bad. Bad for your health. Bad for your confidence. Bad for your self-esteem.

Forgive yourself now because that is a better choice. The thing about choice is that it can be overwritten with another choice. If you overwrite your previous choice with better one, you’re better off, aren’t you?

We have not invented a time machine yet. We cannot go back in and change the mistake. Had this been possible, it would probably be the best choice. But it is not available to us so better we make the next best choice – Accept the reality, whatever it is.

Remember what Henry David Thoreau said, “Never look back unless you are planning to go that way!”

You do not want to go back, do you?

Certainly you don’t want to.

Instead, savour the present moment.

Know that you’re not your thoughts. Know that you’re not your actions. Know that you’re not your mistakes. You’re pure awareness of the moment. Nothing less; nothing more.

Learn to have life full of Shouldless Living. Accept yourself the way you are and the way you are not and start engaging in the next best thing wholeheartedly.

Let Love Happen

“Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead.” ~ Oscar Wilde

Have you ever experienced a great human sentiment called Love? It is one of most elegant emotions a human being ever experiences.

Still, many societies, communities, families, situations and thinking patterns tend to suppress it. They impose as if it were a foreign emotion…something external, but the truth is the opposite.

Human beings are capable of it when they let it happen. But often they do not because they don’t get it right.

As human beings, our prime duty is to make our souls happy and when we don’t let love happen, how can we be happy?

We let fears fill our minds, develop different kinds of prejudices and take (or not take) actions that keep us away from the spontaneous, natural and divine feeling called love.

The moment you divide the world into yours and mine, good and bad, right and wrong, you associate many conditions to your love. That very feeling subordinates to the external situations and it will be no longer natural, as it will get triggered when an external condition is true.

As spiritual beings on a human journey, we experience things through our five senses: sound, sight, touch, smell, and taste. We do it through our body and mind.

The best body can ever achieve is pleasure and health. The best mind can ever achieve is bliss. When you love unconditionally, body and mind – both operate with intense energy and achieve its best.

Most people do not know these distinctions but they are capable of experiencing different types of emotions anyways: May it be anger, trust, distrust, respect, possessiveness, like, dislike or love.

These emotions fill most part of our lives. Love is the most fulfilling emotion amongst all.

Here, “Love” is not something about loving someone else; it is a blessing that is available to you. Like healthy body and blissful mind, it is a gift that you already have. Whether you allow yourself to use that gift or not is in your hands.

When you allow love to happen, you get connected with a completely different kind of energy.

Love is the door to heaven. But make sure you get it right – anyone can show you that door, but no one can open it for you. You’re the one who has to walk through it.

Go, let love happen. Act a child. Don’t judge. Things are just fine. Just play the game with 100% of your attention. Don’t focus on seizing the benefit, just experience who you are and let everyone around you notice it. Flow like a river.

Embrace the Failures and Move On…

Failures are at a far side of success. It is an event to be embraced, accepted, reflect on what caused the failures and move on.

Flow like a river. Flowing beings are never a failure. The reason is simple – they don’t stuck at once place. Usually the event of past. Failure has already happened. Although you don’t need to but if you really want to, then be sad for 15 minutes but then start creating something new.

A thought that you’ve to move on is all it takes.

And believe me, life won’t be the same when you experience yourself who has started moving on.

 

Most learnings of successful beings
come from their experiences of
being part of massive failures.

When you’re failing, you’re gathering
resources for successful you.

Keep moving ahead!

~ Utpal Vaishnav

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