Michami Dukkadam

Religions and I share a special relationship: I do not believe in any but I respect all of them.

But one thing I deliberately do: I observe the principles offered by different religions, see how they can help the humanity and continue my journey of becoming an aware human.

But this does not stop the religious messages and wishes I receive and it is obvious also as everyone is different.

Today, I received such a wish when I was beginning my day – from a Jain friend whom I respect for his remarkable dedication to work and ethics as a person.

He sent me a message – Micchāmi Dukkaḍaṃ along with a couple of lines that said that he is seeking forgiveness!

I read the message consciously and felt good about it. Soon, I thought I should know more about what Michhami Dukkadam really means. Hence I did a quick research (pardon my unawareness – I have received this message every year but I never really knew what it really means).

Micchāmi Dukkaḍaṃ is widely used in the Jain religion on the last day (Samvatsari or Kshamavani) of Paryushana, the most important annual holy event of the Jain calendar.As a matter of ritual, Jains greet their friends and relatives on this last day with Micchāmi Dukkaḍaṃ, seeking their forgiveness. No private quarrel or dispute should be carried beyond this time. The importance of forgiveness in the utmost in Jainism.

Micchāmi Dukkaḍaṃ means this: “May All The Evil That Has Been Done Be Fruitless.” 

Here is how I perceive it:

  1. When someone asks you to forgive, regardless if s/he has committed any wrongdoings or not, you get a specific chemical reaction in your body.
  2. You suddenly feel that the amount of selfishness you carry as a human starts to decrease. When selfishness decreases, you start to feel relaxed.
  3. If you don’t overwrite your state of being with new (and often selfish) experiences again, you remain in a great state of joy, an abundance of happiness and cheer.

I wish all of you who are reading this, get to experience that.

So here is my Michami Dukkadam to all of you …

For any reasons, or unreasonably;
By doing something or by not doing ‘some’ thing;
directly or indirectly;

If I have hurt you, emotionally, mentally, physically (I guess not) or otherwise, then please forgive this Nobody. 🙏

Micchāmi Dukkaḍaṃ! 🙏🙏

~UV (20170825)

Why North is Not the Best Direction for Sleeping in India

“Never keep your head facing North,” they typically say in India. “It’s a ritual. Vaastu does not permit it.”

I’ve always wondered why is it so. Is there a logical reason for not doing that? I understand Vaastu is a subject of life energy – and energy has to have some roots in science. Maybe our consciousness has not understood it yet.

In the quest of finding out the truth, I came across this video from Sadhguru Jaggi Vasudev:

“If you place your head to the north and stay that way for 5 to 6 hours, the magnetic pull will cause pressure on your brain.”  ~ Sadhguru

So if you are in Australia, South may not be the best direction for sleeping and if you’re in India, North is not. Important here is not to follow a ritual blindly but go to the roots of its WHY and then make an informed decision.

Here is a resourceful post on Sleeping Positions: Why North Is Not The Best Direction from Isha Foundation.

My takeaway: Rituals are fine but when you understand the scientific reasons behind them, you might want to follow it not because it is a ritual but because you think that’s the right thing to do.

Learning Techniques Vs. Learning Ownership

Jack puts in a lot of time to learn the techniques.

He’s a technique-biased learner. If you access his Dropbox folder called “To Learn,” you will see notes like this:

  • Top 7 ways to Write an Internal Office Memo That’s Not Boring
  • Top 10 SureFire Techniques to Lose Weight and Gain Muscles
  • What Everyone is Missing When Raising Their First Girl Child (and how not to)
  • Top 50 Tips to Make Money From Pharma Stocks From Day-Trading

Lots of how-tos …

The problem with this approach is that they are good to read but don’t always work as-is.

They need to be contextually modified to suit the specific needs.

Focusing merely on techniques is a great waste because it is not difficult to be good at a subject if we really choose to be.

We can be good at ANY subject if we choose to deal with an uncertain next and failures and frustration and the mess.

The problem is, we don’t want to take ownership to be good at something unless we find out that it is possible to for us to be good at that thing.

We expect others to coach us to be good at something while we do other stuff like updating facebook status, playing mobile games, attending a friend’s sister’s husband’s uncle’s daughter’s neighbour’s birthday party … or doing something else.

We want to be good at something while doing other stuff. Doing other stuff means our attention is divided and we are not 100% committed to be good at something.

What if we create a culture where the focus is on buying and selling ownership.
What if we create a culture where the focus is on buying and selling #ownership. Click To TweetWhen we buy ownership, we hold ourselves accountable to produce the results.

When we sell ownership, we have delegated a specific project or a task to a dependable person and that person has owned it.

Such a trade of ownership actually makes people choosing themselves.

A learner who chooses herself is unstoppable.

A learner who chooses herself is unstoppable. #habits Click To Tweet

Sure, it takes some time to get used to the uncomfortable situations that the trade of ownership puts you in but once got, it works as an extremely powerful tool.

Successful cultures practice trading of ownership. Successful individuals too.

Successful cultures practice trading of ownership. Successful individuals too. #success #habits Click To Tweet

What do you want to do?

Track Your Progress Daily

Do you track your progress daily?

Yes?

Imagine this scenario: an idea took over your energies and you felt passionate about it. You set your goals enthusiastically and started chasing them diligently.

Days passed … then some weeks … then some months …

… and then, on a lonely weekend evening, you’re wondering even though you have reached many of  your goals, you don’t feel accomplished. The degree of your fulfilment vs. the energy you brought-in are out of proportion and you feel should do something about it.

This has happened to me more than once and kept me wondering why this happens even after accomplishing some of the significant (sounding) goals I had set for myself.

Here’s the big idea – Track Your Progress Daily. Not only against individual small time goals but against your fundamental goal that you’ve consciously bought into.

You may be accomplishing many of the small-time goals but if you don’t track your progress against your fundamental life goal, it might turn out as a worthless accomplishment.

You might have progressed a lot in an individual goal but accomplishing that goal might have taken you afar from your fundamental goal.

Progress is important. Ensuring that your progress is in the direction of your fundamental life goal is even more important.

Track Your Progress Daily. Just a couple of minutes spent on doing this exercise has a power to make your life experiences more meaningful.

Let Go

Are you holding on a relationship that’s not worth your time and energy?

Yes?

We all know that our life is lived only once still we keep holding on relationships that do not shower us with love, empowerment and encouragement.

We “hope” that things will work out one day.

  • That friend who has gone kaput will again be my closest friend … one day.
  • That pretty girl will say yes to my marriage proposal … one day.
  • That bad customer will turn into good … one day.
  • My mother-in-law (or boss) will stop shouting at me … one day.

One day!

We keep waiting but the “one day” NEVER comes.

Or even if it comes, it comes at a time we’ve stopped waiting for it.

What’s the point?

So, today let go of every relationship – real or imaginary – that constantly hurts you – do not keep people in your life who do not motivate you, encourage you, enhance you and make you feel good for who you are.

Your present being is inclusive of them. Exclude them today from your life.

When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.

~ Lao Tzu

Let go.

Do not look back. Do not hold onto your past. Do not keep thinking about what you could have done differently.

It’s OK to move on. You owe it to yourself to move on. You owe it to yourself to be happy with the relationships you have …

The Minimalistc (Joshua Fields Millburn & Ryan)

Let go.

Lori Deschane of Tiny Buddha has written a wonderful post called How to Let Go of a Past Relationship. Read it today. It provides useful insights on letting go.

Let go.

You will never regret your decision and the world will get a happier you … and you’ll enjoy it too!

How to Excel at a Skill?

What do you need to excel at a skill?

Wondering what it could be?

Too many people believe that to excel at a skill, they need to make revolutionary changes in the way they think, feel and behave.

That’s not true.

To excel at a skill, you need to make a small change but on consistent basis.

To make a small change on a consistent basis, you need intentional focus and undivided attention to the task at hand.

BTW, Intentional Focus and Undivided Attention are the focus-keywords I’ve given to my team this year.

You need small yet consistent steps towards the apex of the skill-excellence.

Small is easy to start. Small is easy to measure. Small is easy to retrospect. Small is easy to correct.

Small is simple. Simple gets done, fast!

If you get better at your Photoshop skills 1% each day for next six weeks, you will see a 40% improvement in your Photoshop skills.

40% is a huge improvement, isn’t it?

It’s true for any other area of you life: Health; Cooking; Coding; Public Speaking … or any other area. You can excel at almost any skill you can think of.

Getting better by just 1% does not require you to make revolutionary changes in the way they think, feel and behave.

That’s less scary too.

So now you’re not scared, who’s stopping you from getting better at any skill you want in just about six weeks?

Any skill?

Embrace the Failures and Move On…

Failures are at a far side of success. It is an event to be embraced, accepted, reflect on what caused the failures and move on.

Flow like a river. Flowing beings are never a failure. The reason is simple – they don’t stuck at once place. Usually the event of past. Failure has already happened. Although you don’t need to but if you really want to, then be sad for 15 minutes but then start creating something new.

A thought that you’ve to move on is all it takes.

And believe me, life won’t be the same when you experience yourself who has started moving on.

 

Most learnings of successful beings
come from their experiences of
being part of massive failures.

When you’re failing, you’re gathering
resources for successful you.

Keep moving ahead!

~ Utpal Vaishnav

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