Embrace the Failures and Move On…

Failures are at a far side of success. It is an event to be embraced, accepted, reflect on what caused the failures and move on.

Flow like a river. Flowing beings are never a failure. The reason is simple – they don’t stuck at once place. Usually the event of past. Failure has already happened. Although you don’t need to but if you really want to, then be sad for 15 minutes but then start creating something new.

A thought that you’ve to move on is all it takes.

And believe me, life won’t be the same when you experience yourself who has started moving on.

 

Most learnings of successful beings
come from their experiences of
being part of massive failures.

When you’re failing, you’re gathering
resources for successful you.

Keep moving ahead!

~ Utpal Vaishnav

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Don’t get confused about your confusion

I meet two kinds of people everyday:

  1. Clear ones
  2. Confused ones

Clear ones are those who exactly know what it is and what they need. They are the ones who believe their perceptions to be right and are ready to do whatever it takes to ensure that they are right.

Clear ones are anyways in minority, whereas you will find the confused ones, the majority, everywhere.

Now, there are different kinds of confused people:

  1. Confused ones who perceive that they are not confused
  2. Confused ones who know that they are confused
  3. Confused ones who are in continuous process of getting clear and confused and clear and confused again…by choice

So if I classify, there are two kinds of confused people:

  1. Confused ones who stupidly conclude
  2. Confused ones who keep the possibilities open

Confused one who keep the possibilities open are actually better off compared to the clear ones or confused ones who stupidly conclude.

Why is it so?

Simple – confused ones who keep the possibilities open are in continuous process of getting clear about some things and getting confused about the next things; that is also, by choice.

Confused ones who keep the possibilities stay hungry and stay foolish. Some people call this process learning, unlearning and relearning but the point is: they’re active seeker.

If you really seek something and you persevere till whatever it takes, you find it one day.

Key here is to keep moving on. Problem is never with the confusion but the problem is with standing still.

The world is changing and new dimensions of almost everything are discovered faster than ever.So, match the pace with the changing world and keep seeking what you feel you should be seeking.

So here’s to the confused ones:

Don’t get confused about your confusion. Be clear that you are confused at the moment. First, be okay with it and then do something about it.

That’s what continuous learners do, why couldn’t you?

Give Your 100 Percent: A Short Guide

Who does not want to be proud of what they do?

Everyone wants to…still, we are not always proud of what we do. Why?

The reason is simple – we don’t always give our 100 percent all the time.

Don’t you feel sometimes that you should be doing the exercise but you are watching TV instead?

Do you feel sometimes that you want to get rid of your smoking habit but you are buying more cigarettes?

In your heart, you know that you should be doing X but instead, you are doing Y.

We all do that. We don’t give our 100% all the time to the right thing our heart knows.

Often, we do not get the importance of giving our 100% – let us get some clarity on that.

Give Your 100 Percent: A Short Guide

Why Giving Your 100 Percent is Important?

It is important because when you give your 100 percent, you increase the chances of being successful in what you do. Also, you won’t have any regrets even if you fail.

Failing or succeeding is not in anyone’s hands but giving 100 percent is.

The problem with not giving your 100 percent is that you curse yourself for not accomplishing the things although you feel you could.

When you curse yourself, you don’t feel happy, do you?

And, the first duty every human being has is to ensure that his or her soul is happy. Happy souls make the world a happier place.

Giving your 100 percent is important so that the world becomes (or stays) happy.

What is Preventing You From Giving Your 100 Percent?

When we were born, we inherently knew how to give our 100 percent. If we needed something, we just asked. For example, when we needed a toy we liked, we used to do everything and anything possible to get the attention of our parents and get what we wanted.

Our prime task was to obtain the toy and nothing else. We were giving our 100 percent to accomplish the highest priority  task, which we had on our hand.

Then we were taught to be reasonable human beings who understand and practice rules of the society such that the function of society remains smooth.

We developed an understanding of right and wrong, moral and immoral, practical and impractical, what will look good or bad and more of such.

We were taught to judge the things. Like conclusions, judgments too kill if they are not the right kind.

When we judge the things by comparing and doing various kinds of situational analysis, we invite one or the other kind of fears to take over our actions.

When fears take over our actions, we fail to give our best. Existence of fear itself creates a kind of energy, which takes away our attention that could be put in the work we do.

Reflect on what Napoleon Bonaparte said,

“He who fears being conquered is sure of defeat.”

How true …

If we allow fear to take our over our actions then obviously, more of our actions will be powered by fear. When our actions are powered by fears, scared we, won’t be able to give our 100 percent.

When to give your 100 Percent?

It depends upon how intentional you want to live your life. There are people who do not even know what an intentional life is.

Intentional life is the kind of life that is meaningful in all ways. Sure, you know that life is empty and meaningless but you create the meaning for the intention of creating the meaning in all that you do.

Given you know what it is, you should give your 100 percent in the tasks that are most important to you.

Imagine one thing that you will regret if you don’t do it now. That particular thing is an ideal candidate for giving your 100 percent.

Reflect on the following quote from Goethe, Johann Wolfgang Von:

“Things which matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least.”

You should give your 100 percent to the things that matter most to you, as simple as that.

Where (and Where Not) to Give Your 100 Percent?

“This is a weird question,” you might think.

No, it is not. It is an important one. You cannot give your 100 percent to everyone’s requests. You have to have your tasks written down and prioritize them based on their importance.

Once prioritized, you should give your 100 percent to the most important task.

Imagine you have seven tasks in your list. And currently you are working on your third task. All you have to do is to complete the third task with your best ability. You cannot think about the task list, four more tasks that you have to accomplish or the past two tasks that you accomplished.

You be in the present moment and give your 100 percent energy to the task you’re working on.

For example, while writing this blog post, I focus on writing the best that I can write at this moment. I don’t think about how it will be perceived, whether people will like it or not or whether I’ll receive criticism on some of the thoughts that I have written.

But when this post is over, I will focus on all these things and revise it. While making revisions, I will think how can I choose more effective words to convey the same thought.

So coming back to the “Where” questions, you should give your 100 percent to the task that is of highest priority based on the importance. It is okay not to give even your 1 percent to other things.

If I talk about my other interest – Software Development – which might be yours too, in that, there is a thinking paradigm called “Agile”.

When you develop software using Agile,  you essentially give your 100 percent to the present, most important task. How you do that? By taking actions that confirm to certain principles of developing software  using agile. One such principle is about simplicity. It goes like this:

“Simplicity–the art of maximizing the amount of work not done–is essential.”

We can leverage the same principle in achieving our non-software-development tasks also.  We learn to simplify the things, eliminate what is not important and give our 100% to what is important.

How to Give Your 100 Percent Anyways?

If you believe that the ones who give their 100 percent don’t have fears, you’re wrong.

They do have their part of fears but the thing is: they know how to execute anyways.

You might be wondering how to do that. Here’s one way: Suasan Jeffers has written a fantastic book called “Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway”, which provides you with the tools to face the fears that are stopping you from giving your 100 percent.

You will learn about how to weed negatives out of your thoughts and words, develop goals that help extend your self-imposed limitations and don’t let your insecurities ruin your present life.

Essentially, this book will help you develop a state of mind that will enable you to give your 100 percent.

To give your 100 percent anyways, you need to absolutely get clear about your priorities, eliminate what is not important, and invest all of your energies in the most important task.

In closing, I’d invite you to give your 100 percent to the most important things and live an intentional, regretless life. You don’t need an invitation to do that, do you?


Photo Credits: Johan Larsson/Flickr

Conversation Between Possibility and Action

Consider the dialogue between possibility and action:

“You came to my life and inspired me to transform into you…but now I got that you’re not mine. Fear can influence you as well.  I wanted you to be mine only but you cannot even though it seems you want to. I must get back to who I was…pure form of possibility,” Possibility said to Action.

“I know that you, the possibility and the fear – both want to conquer me. But why you’re giving up?”

“I’m the possibility. I don’t have pretty good relationship with the fear.  I want to have you on my side, I want to live for the sole purpose of transforming myself into you but you don’t get it… you get influenced by the fear as well…”

“I know I can get influenced by the fear or by you but do you know that without you, I will remain just a meaningless form of mine… I was expecting you to take over me and leave no room for the fear to even interact with me…”

“No. I don’t have those abilities. I’m just a possibility.  I can’t influence you. You have to figure out a way to influence yourself and be with me forever…”

In fight between possibility and action, both lose. Action wants to be led by the possibility but he cannot. Possibility wants to transform herself into actions but she cannot.

The problem is not with the possibility or the action. The problem is with us. We don’t let possibility transform into the action. We let our fears take actions over.

We are afraid of so many things that might never happen.

We disserve ourselves by keeping the possibility and actions away.

Devils of fears are eager to conquer the world of action and make the world a place worth not living.

It is up to us. Let’s allow the possibility, not the fear, to lead our lives and empower them by active actions and make the world a better place.

Who is the Leader of Your Life? You or Your Wants?

Needs Vs. Wants – At any given time, you serve one or the other.
needs vs wants

When you feel like needing something (or someone), first you miss it and then you do something about it. It’s a different thing whether you get it or not.

If you haven’t got it and you still feel the need, you’ll not give up and keep searching for a breakthrough, much like a research lab, and figure out different ways to achieve the what you need.

No hard feelings if you haven’t got it yet. Like research labs, you know that failures are part of your life. All you care is about doing your best and then don’t worry too much about the results.

Now, it is easier said than done but that’s what.

Wants, on the other hand, work differently with you. They have a habit to take you over. They have a habit to make you crave about the results.

If you get positive results, you feel happy. But if you get negative results, you feel sad.

Wants have the power to control your happiness at a minimum and quality of life at large.

When you let your wants take over yourself, although unknowingly, you start living passive life.

You want to live an active life, don’t you?

Some of you are smart and would say, “We know how to maintain the balance between the two.”

Hats off to you if you can do it but in practice, it is extremely difficult. You have to have a binary answer (Yes or No) about who you want to be the leader of your life. You or your wants?

If you use your wants as your “servants”, they’re good. If you let them lead your life, you’re gone.

Closing Question – What do you do with your wants? You let them lead your life or you lead your life and allow some space to them?

Image Credit: David Castillo Dominici

Stay Hungry 7

  1. Ask “Why” and why and why again till you got your answer. Related Read: Five Why Technique by Tanmay Vora.
  2. Radiate energy. Keep moving. Act Now. Get Results. Retrospect. Radiate energy and keep moving.
  3. Get back on when you fell off climbing your apex. Try once more. Keep burning desire to reach your apex. Related Read: Keep Delivering.
  4. Enjoy the present moment. It is not good. It is not bad. It is the present moment and whatever is happening to you is for good. Believe that. Related Read: Savor the Surprise.
  5. Start each new day with new energy that energizes others. New day, new beginning. New beginning, new life. What is past is history which doesn’t matter much. Well, today it doesn’t. Related Read:  Right Now.
  6. Express yourself in whatever way you could. Draw. Sing. Speak. Write. Whatever.
  7. Ask yourself everyday – Am I living my primary aim? If not, then it’s never too late to change. Related Read: Your Fundamental Goal.